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Hi. Today I would like to tell you about something that strongly influence our quality of life - your image of yourself and the world. There is nothing more important, because nothing is objective. Everything you perceive, you perceive by some context. World happens in your mind. And because of your mind, imagination and perception you can be happy or not, and is there more cordial thing that happiness?

So, how to make your self-esteem a friend?
First of all, do you need to change it? For example, you feel insecure in your life, so you act in some way or another - you can pretend you are very outgoing, aggressive or you stay calm and answer with a low voice. Is that comfortable to you? Do you think that if you would act in other way, you will be more happy in any aspect of you life, especially social life?

Good self-esteem help us communicate with others, help us to cut the distance, to make friends, to express ourselves without shame or unnecessary bias. Also, it make us manipulate-resistant.

First of all, start with failures. It is casual that people are afraid of something, for example speaking public, because generally they are afraid of failures.

What is a failure? Failure is when you don't take conclusion from your mistakes. MISTAKES ARE NOT FAILURES! Everybody make mistakes. So what? If I decided to write this text and I would probably make like hundreds of grammar and spelling mistakes, should it stop me from doing that? Should I feel ashame?

Adversities and mistakes happen. You are not always best - often you are weak in something. It doesn't matter - there is a way to start as a new. In you old college you could have labels like "Bad in math" or "Bad in social relationships". "Looser".
But when you come to a new school, it seems that old labels where gone. But it is exactly the opposite - soon, it appears that you are having the same labels. Why? Is it fatum or something?

No. You just carry those labels inside you. You cannot deal with them ,and they are still there. What can you do to threw them out?

Find a time to new habit. I called it "making a blank sheet".

1.Write about all those failures that you are carrying with you. For example you have never talked to great girl from your class.
2.Make a short list of impacts that your failure has in your life. For example you have never talked to this girl, and now you feel like a social looser, who will never find his lover. You are sitting in front of a laptop instead of dating, kissing and doing...all that stuff that you could do with a girlfriend. What a zero...
3. Make WHY?
For example:
Why haven't you talk to her?
Because I feel afraid of that.
Why do you feel afraid of that?
Because I don't know how to speak to women.
Why?
Because I never try to.
Why?...

Make this until you found something that catch your attention and gives you some conclusion.

Think about conclusion - how to make at least a minimum step? For example talk with some females. Take some advices, some new experience. You don't have to solve all problem - but you are not in the same position anymore. Give yourself a blank sheet. Failure doesn't exist anymore.